For marketers, writing is everything.
Salesletters, autoresponders, blogs, broadcasts, tweets… as technology grows, so do our opportunities for contact with our market.
And when you communicate valuable things… MORE FREQUENCY = MORE MONEY.
(Seriously… once you’ve got a list that likes you, you’re MUCH MUCH MUCH better off with 50 A- or B+ points of contact than 5 A+ points of contact)
But what if you’ve got nothing to say? How in the world are you going to communicate, with value, on such a regular basis? How will you ever maintain that level of “marketing intimacy” in your relationship with your list?
In other words, it’s not just copywriters and authors who suffer from “writer’s block”, we marketers pay the price in spades.
Thankfully, there are some simple principles which overcome writer’s block, virtually every time:
1. WRITE FOR YOUR CHILDREN, NOT YOUR PARENTS OR YOUR TEACHERS:
Most of the time when we feel blocked, we’re experiencing an inner critic which prejudges every word before it even has time to form in our brain. It’s as if we think our parents or schoolteachers are looking over our shoulders, critiquing everything we do. Who wouldn’t clam up in such a situation?
But here’s the truth. The people you want to reach in your market are EATING your words, NOT CRITIQUING THEM. (Yes, of course there are always a few bitter, mean people who enjoy pointing out every last mistake, but they’re their own worst punishment)
The people you want to reach want to be FED. They’re not looking for a demonstration of brilliance which would get past a dissertation committee.
Sometimes at seminars when the topic of writer’s block comes up and marketers tell me they just don’t have anything to say to their market with frequency, I immediately ask how many of them have small children. Amongst the sea of hands which go up I then ask “How many of you had something to say to them yesterday?” Everyone nods.
When we think of feeding rather than impressing our markets the issue of judgment mostly melts away.
I used to work with young children as a psychotherapist. I’ll always remember one particular session with a treasured mentor where I was stressing out about whether I was doing enough to help this particular boy who’s father had deserted him.
My mentor said “Glenn, this boy is soaking up every thing you say, do, and smell like. Stop worrying, and just go back and be present with him” (Still gives me chills)
2. LEARN HOW TO VOMIT
No, I’m not suggesting you become bulimic, but rather I’m borrowing a colorful metaphor from the world of improvisation. When actors accept the role of live improvisation, they don’t have the luxury of “actors block”… there’s an audience, it’s live, and something had better come out of their mouths.
Initially when I tried this I found it very nerve-wracking. But my professor for that course told me “Glenn, just vomit. We’ll make it pretty once it’s out there”.
With regards to writing this couldn’t be more true. Vomit your words onto the screen and you’ll have plenty of time to make it pretty before you publish it (don’t you just love MS-WORD?). But if you insist on ONLY putting pretty things on the screen, you’ll have precious little to polish.
Vomit, then make it pretty. Words to live by
3. WRITE THE UGLIEST TRUTH FIRST
Here’s something most people don’t WANT to know…
When you feel like you’ve got “nothing to say”, it’s really because there’s something you don’t want to say.
When I was studying to be a psychotherapist we learned something very interesting… the mind is never blank. Never.
How do we know?
There are dozens of scientific studies on sleep and dreaming which involved waking people up in the deepest stages of sleep. I’m not talking about REM (where dreaming occurs), but the parts we never remember, where we’re most soundly asleep and our body is involved in restoring itself. It’s this part of the human experience we most associate with “nothingness” or a blank mind.
Yet when we wake people at these times and ask them what they were thinking or “dreaming” (not technically a dream because it’s not during REM) in a sleep lab, they’ve ALWAYS got something to say. Always.
In psychotherapy sessions, you gradually come to observe that people are never really thinking about “nothing” (George Castanza aside). Instead, when you observe a few hundred sessions you understand that people stop talking when their associations lead them to something they don’t WANT to say.
Writers block is NOT an empty mind. Writers block is the painful and fatiguing experience of preventing yourself from saying what you don’t want to say!
How can you use this to be in more frequent contact with your market, with regular, valuable communication, and make more money?
Simple.
Sit down and ask yourself what the ugliest truth on your mind is today, then vomit it out on the screen (remember you can edit it later).
Like this:
“No matter how much I accomplish as a marketer, how much money I make, how many people have made millions from my work, etc… I always feel like a ‘fallen priest’ who should still be using his skills and training to help suicidal people instead of building businesses and making money.”
I could turn this into a useful post by citing 3 examples of how marketers’ guilt about making money actually CAUSES more suffering in their prospects. For example, if I let this feeling get the better of me I wouldn’t keep sharing what I’ve learned, and a strong argument could be made that the people on my list would make less (with all the suffering that would entail)
Also, and this is key… it doesn’t matter what market you’re in, you can always find a way to use the ugly truth to break your writer’s block .
For example, let’s say I was writing to a body language list instead of you all. I could still use the ugly truth above. I’d talk about how, to truly exude confidence with body language, you need to examine and dispute your own guilt, or else you’ll only mimic the posture of confidence, portraying an empty shadow of the stature you’re trying to project.
Or if I were writing to my guinea pig list, I’d say “Listen, your piggy doesn’t want you to feel guilty. Guinea Pigs only live 8 years or so if you take care of them. That’s 1/10th of a human life span, so every minute you separate yourself from joy with your pet feels like TEN minutes to him”
You get the point.
Feeling blocked?
Write for your children, learn how to vomit, and tell the ugly truth.
Now go write something!
Glenn
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Great stuff Glenn!
I always feel I have nothing to say. Or that I’m not qualified to say anything.
What dont I want to say?
Food for tought..
Thanks Glen! I have this blog I have abandoned for 6 months and I keep telling myself it’s writer’s block and I keep procrastinating writing email autoresponders. This post has really inspired me to “just get over it.” Writer’s block is just an excuse we all hide behind from time to time, and it’s true that you never really have nothing to say, your mind is a tireless chatterbox.
Your comment about telling the ugly truth made me realize that at times we work too hard to trying ti come up with ideas and words that conceal the truth. I believe we spend way too much time trying to sugar coat the truth or find an alternative that we hope the market will accept when what we should be doing is telling the truth … even if it is ugly.
You have certainly given us a different and better frame of reference to work from.
Hello Glenn,
Thanks for the words of wisdom. It is probably the best piece of advice I have seen on writing as it just makes absolute sense. Definitely one I will be bookmarking and refering back to when I think I have nothing to write or talk about.
Thanks again and take care.
Great ideas. You can also try this:
1) Write down the first three words that come to your mind on your particular subject.
2) Take each word and create one sentence that makes a point about your subject.
3) Take each sentence and write 3 other sentences that support the point. You know have three sets of three sentences each.
4) Write a sentence to summarize your nine sentences and place that before the nine sentences and write another version of that same sentence and put it after the nine sentences.
You now have a paragraph.
As always this is great stuff.
And you are not a fallen priest.
We online marketers have one of the most stressful jobs in the universe because we …
A. Rarely have enough marketing knowledge to act with certainty
B. Because of the amount of fake gurus we don’t know who to trust
C. Marketing requires tremendous amounts of patience, a strong will and a very strong capacity for failure.
That’s way we are all crazy and some of us are borderline suicidal. So glenn – you are in the right place. Preventing crazed marketing people from killing themselves
Sorry Glen,
Can\’t think of anything to write
Just kidding. I really like the vomit idea. I write copy for clients so I think I\’ll ask them to vomit up ideas into my voice recorder and then I can clean them up afterwards (the ideas, not the clients)!
Keep up the great work
Simon
I can so relate to the “ugly truth” block.
I have a raw food and fitness site specifically about low fat raw vegans. Sometimes I’m just so frustrated about the information being touted in the mainstream (i.e. high fat) raw food movement that I just want to “vomit” my thoughts all over a blog post.
But then I worry about coming across as too “in-your-face” or like I’m bashing other raw food educators (even though I never name-names, no matter how much I may want to) and so I write something softer instead.
Hm…maybe it’s time for me to stop worrying about pleasing everyone and just be honest. That’s why my readers stick around in the first place!
Thanks, Glen!
Great post.
I will do my best and learn to do that non-bulimic vomiting as I have been feeling blocked for a long time. This post came just in right time for me.
You are right saying that mind is never empty but that there is something preventing us from putting our thoughts out there.
Great work Glenn.
Maria
Have you read Carl Roger’s, ‘Barriers to Communication’? As I remember it was a piece in a Harverd magazine where he said we judge everything outside ourselves, which was one barrier. It seems to me we can reconcile any number of thoughts in our head be when we put them on paper – outside ourslves – we judge them, which I’ve always thought as a barrier to writing.
Swayze … From one vegan to another “you go girl!”
another major “block” is awareness that the vomit might be just that: regurgitation of somebody else’s vomit.
a few years ago i was in a “pre-peer review” group for a book which contained info on newly found correlation between cortisol and body image problems. when mentioning this research a couple years later, the people i was talking to accused me of mis-hearing late night infomercials for diet pills.
that could have been a blocker of my output. instead, i made the correct choice and blocked those people. people are drowning in info-overload. their natural response is to begin to reject information, rather than filter it.
that is, in my opinion, why the “ugly truth” ordering of events still has value to the reader as well as the writer. just make sure the “truth” value is higher than the “ugliness.”
I often feel as Lawrence does and hopefully with time and practice that will fix itself. All I can do is write the best that I know at the time and be willing to stand up and call myself on it if I find out differently.
As Yoav points out, there are a lot of so called Gurus out there that thrive on giving people only a piece of the puzzle, and as I have found out frequently, that piece often leads people in the wrong direction.
As someone working within the entry to online marketing niche, I’ve been searching for a long time to find just one “expert,” not a guru, but an expert who has an honest and solid 1 + 2 = 3 training program for someone entering this field that I can represent to my list. One day, when I’ve paid my dues, possibly I will be that expert. In the meantime I will keep searching.
This post was a little bit scary for me… I’m not a native English speaker. I’m not even fluent in English. Even if I have something to say I don’t know how to say it…
I outsource all my content and just point out what I want to see. The result never fully satisfies me.
How do you think Glenn, is there a place for a Internet Marketer like me in an English seeking society?
John, why don’t you hone your skills in your native language first? I’ve seen several marketers do that, then have a professional translate an already successful sales system into English. A lot easier than trying to go up against the language barrier to start with!
Great post – thanks Glenn.
I have been dreading “writing blogs, things, etc. It really helps to know I am not the only one – not that I really thought that I was. I have been told at times I talk to much. Now I will just put it on paper. Thanks!
An Excellent post! Loved the quip about critics being “their own worst punishment”. Haw!
Great post Glenn.
I know in our world (Web design), we often face delays in getting site content out of new customers, because of writer’s block & excuses of lack of time, etc but I love your approach of just “vomitting” it out and then cleaning it up later, as well as telling the hard truth.
2 killer strategies that would make a BIG difference IMO.
Simon’s comment about using a voice recorder & then cleaning it up later is fantastic. Most mobile phones can record a conversation in-person, so it’s not like you need to run out and buy an expensive digital voice recorder in most cases. iPhone + iTalk (app) = perfect combination
Then, send the content to castingwords.com for transcription, clean it up when it gets back and before you know it, you’ve got some fantastic ready-to-use content.
Thanks for sharing.
Eran
Hi Glenn,
This just might be the last \’push\’ I need. This and a recent (ongoing) situation I\’m going through. I\’m out of work since Sept due to a freak accident. Watching everything I have ($) disappear as both my employer and their insurer drag their feet on paying me STD. Finally after 7 weeks they tell me I\’m going to get $900 before deductions. The gross won\’t even cover the rent I owe for 2 months. I snapped and took a big gamble. I sent a LONG letter to the company\’s lead Atty, explaining what I\’ve been going through, and what led up to this. Also, the $$ they were talking about was a joke, etc. 3 hours later, they revised what they said they owed me. To $2900. Unbelievable! (Trust me, where not done yet.) On the \’Saying what we don\’t want to\’. This is exactly why the world is in the shape it\’s in. The whole world is guilty of lying to itself and all of us to each other. Seth Godin said \’all marketers are liars. I\’ve got news, all humans are liars. We tell ourselves and each other lies everyday. For a million different reasons. But they all boil down to just a few. We\’ve got something to hide, or we\’re afraid to stand up to the abuse of others. Just watch the current politics and coming elections. The baloney is so huge, we could feed the worlds hungry if it were edible. And I\’m doing it right now. Wondering if I\’m being too harsh as I re-read this post. Or I\’ll \’tick\’ someone off. Or be judged \’bitter\’ or what have you. Enough! The hard truths are coming for us all, whether we like it or not. Might as well tell it like it is. At least it won\’t be weighing down on my chest anymore.
Let me get to this! (ps: the security code is darn near impossible to read)